Marriage Is

After 52 years of marriage, I think I may have finally stumbled on a subject that I actually  know a little bit about.  Not much, but a little.  Oh sure, I have written some tongue in cheek blogs about relationships, but, if I were ever asked what marriage really is to me, my answer would probably be something like this.

Marriage is not a union between two people.  It is a union between two “equals”
Marriage is not letting yesterday define today
Marriage is understanding that your attitude has a lot to do with hers.
Marriage is saying “I love you” without speaking a word
Marriage is scolding him for being too heavy and then baking his favorite cookies
Marriage is knowing the difference between criticism and advice
Marriage is being able to finish each others sentences
Marriage is never easy, but it is always worth the effort

Marriage is listening to his tired old jokes and stories and acting like you never heard them before.
Marriage is pretending she doesn’t notice when he nods off during the show he had to watch
Marriage is doing little things around the house and not expecting her to notice
Marriage is holding hands on the way into the grocery store
Marriage is two people driving one car simultaneously
Marriage is blaming each other for leaving the checkbook at home
Marriage is taking a beloved pet to the vet for the last time together because it hurts too much to go alone
Marriage is waiting in a fabric store without complaining
Marriage is knowing from the tone of her voice when “yes” doesn’t really mean “yes”
Marriage is discussing curtains and colors and cushions and appearing to be interested
Marriage is telling each other how to do things we have done all our lives without assistance
Marriage is being able to admit when you were wrong
Marriage is worrying about each other
Marriage is knowing you don’t always have to agree, as long as you can accept
Marriage is understanding how you got there is less important then arriving together
Marriage is two bodies with one heart
Marriage is a skilled profession requiring attention to detail
Marriage is like an egg.  How you handle it determines the result
Marriage is knowing decisions are best made together
Marriage is knowing life is better because you do not have to walk it alone
Marriage is finding humor in the everyday.  It is all around you if you look
Marriage is a personal thing.  No one else can tell you what it is supposed to look like
Marriage is a gift we give each other, every day



About oldmainer

I am retired and live in southern Maine with my wife and two dogs. I started Oldmainer as an outlet for my occasional opinions and random observations, with some poetry thrown in. I welcome anyone that wants to kick back and join me here on the porch, exploring all the gifts we have been given and the memories collected. Thanks for stopping by.
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15 Responses to Marriage Is

  1. Theresa says:

    Poignant and funny at the same time…a beautiful post, oldmainer. Blessings to you both, and to marriage.


  2. quiall says:

    This reminded me of my parents. They could fill a room with love just by looking at each other.


  3. simply superb – my bride and I are 6 years behind you


  4. Charlotte says:

    As always, it’s beautiful and so true. 🙂


  5. oldmainer says:

    Much appreciated Charlotte


  6. This post is really, really beautiful and I think, indeed, you have lucked onto a subject you know a lot about. Inspiration for the rocky moments, for sure. Thanks.


  7. Failed the first one, doing much better the second time around.


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