How Do I Love Me

Some time ago, I posted an entry called “Reflections” about what I see when I look in the mirror.  Ironically, shortly thereafter, a friend of mine sent me an email that addresses a similar subject.

Apparently Dove, the maker of beauty products, introduced an online commercial where a forensic artist sketches the faces of several women without seeing them.  His drawings are done entirely based on how the subject describes their own face.  He would ask them to tell him about their chin, their hair , or their jaw.  In each case, the women would give critical descriptions of each feature.

Prior to sitting for the drawings, each woman was instructed to make friends with a stranger who was later called upon to describe the same features while a second sketch was made, also without being able to see the artist or the drawing.  The descriptions given by the strangers were much more positive then those given by the person themselves.

When completed, each woman was shown the two sketches of her, set side by side.  In each case, they were more attractive in the drawing described by the stranger then the one they described themselves.

The lesson was quite powerful and evoked some strong emotions, not because of what they saw, but instead, what they didn’t see when they looked at themselves.

I think we are all like that to some extent, men and women alike.  We tend to focus on and be critical of the features that are less then perfect.  The flaws if you would.  We don’t really see what others see. They have a tendency to focus more on the things they like.  “She has great eyes” or “he has a friendly face” etc.

It is said “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” and I guess this kind of supports that.  So the next time you look in the mirror, take a minute to look beyond the slightly crooked nose or the pointed chin and survey the whole package and appreciate the beauty that you find there.


About oldmainer

I am a retired manager living in Southern Maine and a would be writer of poetry, narratives, short stories, and random opinions, and that's how Oldmainer was born. Recently, I decided to try an experiment. I added photography to the mix, using only a cheap cell phone with a limited camera and the editing software that came with it, and added the blog site Inklings at to showcase the results. So, feel free to use whatever you find interesting or worthy, but please honor the terms of my copyright when and if you do. They may not be much, but they are still a piece of me. I appreciate your checking me out and hope that you find something that will encourage a return visit. Thanks for stopping by.
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2 Responses to How Do I Love Me

  1. bgbowers says:

    Thanks for directing me to this wonderful post. Amazing! 🙂


  2. oldmainer says:

    I’m glad you enjoyed. Appreciate your comments.


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